I've been mulling around what I wanted to post about this subject for a long time now...and some of you may have noticed I published a post yesterday but then quickly removed it. I just wanted to get my thoughts straight before I posted it for good.
Josh and I support Proposition 8. Many of you know this proposition will restore the traditional definition of marriage between a man and a woman in California. This is a very sensitive subject and I admit I was a little hesitant about it at first. I thought, what will it hurt to let same-sex couples get married? The more I have studied and thought about it, however, the more determined I have become to protect the traditional definition of marriage and here's why.
To me, marriage is more than a civil ceremony and title. It was established at the beginning of creation so that men and women could have CHILDREN and FAMILIES. Children cannot come into the world without both a father and mother and should be reared by both. I realize this is my personal belief and one that is definitely religious. But I wonder, isn't the idea of marriage itself a religious event? But, despite my personal beliefs, I cannot judge a person for their lifestyle (thank goodness I am not the judge!). Same-sex couples have every civil right as married couples in California and I say let them choose to live as they will. So, if they have the same rights when they are domestic partners, then this issue is not about rights. Some say this proposition is "all about love." Love everyone, let everyone do what they want. I disagree. What if a father "loved" his daughter in a romantic way? Would we allow them to marry? NO! Of course we wouldn't, the idea is appalling. My point is, there has to be some kind of limitations on marriage and obviously we're at the point where the law has to be specific about it. This is a MORAL issue, not a CIVIL one.
But these things are minor compared to my #1 worry. My number one worry is that if I teach my kids what I believe is right and wrong, it will be labeled as "hate speech." So, what choice will they have in their beliefs? They will have to believe, or at least say they do, that it's ok for same-sex couples to marry--it's the law after all and they would be considered intolerant if they said otherwise. Two days ago my brother was called a Bigot for holding a YES on 8 sign. Why does him expressing his belief make him a bigot? He never said he hated homosexuals or that he didn't respect their views, nor did he imply that he wants them to have any less rights. Besides, is she (the woman who called him a bigot) not a Bigot herself because she is not willing to accept his beliefs? Why does tolerance only go one way here? I don't understand that at all.
Some who oppose this proposition have told me to mind my own business when it comes to this issue. I submit that by voting YES I am doing exactly that. Minding my business and that of my family for generations to come. I want them to know that I gave everything I could even when it was hard to support this issue. It is that important to me.
Aren't we lucky to live in a country where we can make our voices heard? Remember to vote on November 4th!